Do you know what you want out of a relationship? Do you feel confident to be yourself when you date? Are you attracting the kind of person with whom you could experience a lasting connection? Are you able to communicate your needs and feelings openly and honestly? If the answer to these questions is ‘no’, then give yourself the opportunity to do things differently. As Benjamin Franklin so wisely said, “If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting.” If you want a different relationship outcome, you need to change your approach to dating.

Most singles are looking for a committed relationship and date with that goal in mind. However, just because you want something doesn't necessarily mean you know how to get it. When your dating strategy doesn't align with who you really are as a unique individual, you unconsciously set yourself up for failure. To begin to date successfully you need to figure out what it is you actually want.

Many variables can interfere with your readiness to date and find a committed relationship, such as past relationship disappointments, a busy lifestyle, family obligations, commitment issues, negative thinking patterns, or mental/emotional health challenges such as depression or anxiety.

Whether you are newly single or someone who is well versed in the world of dating, a Date Coach can assist you to gain the most out of your dating experience. Your Date Coach will help you to define what it is your want in a relationship and discover the best way to go about getting it. Date Coaching is not about giving advice or fixing you. Instead, by asking the right questions, your Date Coach will help you to explore the options you have to create a new reality. Coaching takes place one-on-one, either in person or telephonically.

A Date Coach is someone who can help you:
o Define what you would like out of a relationship
o Overcome self-limiting beliefs
o Build self-confidence
o Package yourself authentically
o Break out of a cycle of negative dating and relationship patterns
o Develop and hold healthy boundaries
o Improve your ability to relate to others
o Use rejection to your advantage
o Maintain a positive attitude
o Feel empowered

Should you be interested in Date Coaching please feel free to contact Vanessa Valentine at vanessa@blue-fire.co.za.

Vanessa Valentine, B.A. Psychology, is a Date & Relationship Coach in private practice. She is an accredited Coach and practitioner member of Coaching and Mentoring South Africa (COMENSA).